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Internal Family Systems
Are you experiencing inner conflict?
Perhaps, a part of you feels driven to grow and take risks, while another part holds you back with fear, self-doubt, or criticism. Maybe you find yourself stuck in unhelpful patterns that seem to repeat, no matter how hard you try to change.
These inner dynamics often stem from past experiences, especially trauma. But trauma isn’t only about what happened to you. It’s about how those experiences became embedded in your nervous system, creating protective patterns that may no longer serve you.
“Trauma is a wound that happens inside a person as a result of what happens to them.”
Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, offers a gentle and effective way to understand and heal these patterns, by working directly with the different "parts" of your inner system.
What is IFS Therapy?
IFS is a clinically respected, evidence-based approach that views the mind as made up of multiple subpersonalities, or “parts”. Each part has a unique role and function — even if its behaviour may seem problematic from the outside.
There are three core types of parts in the IFS model:
- Exiles – Carry unresolved emotional pain, often from early trauma.
- Managers – Try to prevent further harm by controlling behaviour, emotions, or environments.
- Firefighters – Step in during emotional overwhelm, often through impulsive or avoidant behaviours.
“All parts are welcome, they’re simply trying to protect you.”
The goal of IFS is to develop a compassionate relationship with each part. As this happens, parts begin to trust the leadership of your Self - the calm, centred, compassionate core within you. With this Self-led presence, inner healing becomes possible.
What Happens in an IFS Session?
IFS sessions are collaborative and paced for safety. Together, we will:
- Identify and explore your inner parts
- Understand each part’s role and intention
- Facilitate healing for parts holding pain or trauma
- Help protective parts release extreme behaviour
- Strengthen your access to the Self-energy (clarity, calm, compassion...)
- Create harmony among your parts
Our work unfolds gently, at a pace that feels safe for you. Each part is approached with care and respect, allowing trust and healing to naturally emerge.
“You survived the trauma, you will also survive the healing.”
Is IFS Right for You?
IFS is suitable for individuals seeking deeper understanding and lasting emotional healing. It can be particularly effective for:
- Anxiety and depression
- Post-traumatic stress (PTSD)
- Childhood trauma
- Relationship challenges
- Addictions and compulsions
- Body image and eating concerns
- Chronic illness and somatic pain
“Healing isn’t about becoming someone new, it’s about returning to who you truly are.”
Ready to Begin Your Journey?
If you're curious about IFS and how it might help you, I'm here to guide you on this transformative journey. Whether you're dealing with specific issues or simply want to know yourself better, IFS offers a path to healing and growth.
Let's take the first step together. Contact me today for a free 20-minute consultation. We can discuss how IFS might benefit you and answer any questions you have about the process.
Remember, the way to healing and harmony is within you. I'm here to help you find it.
"The path to wholeness is through inner integration, not suppression."